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Pumpkin protein shake

Some things never go out of season. Pumpkin lovers rejoice. I’ve concocted THE most delicious pumpkin smoothie of all time. Pumpkin is a superfood that’s high in fiber and low in calories– making it perfect for sustained energy and fullness in the morning or to refuel after a sweaty spin class. Plus, the carotenoids in pumpkin are major players in the fight against disease.

Here’s the recipe.

Pumpkin Power Shake

Pumpkin Power Shake

1/2 can pumpkin

3 dashes cinnamon

2 dashes nutmeg

1 medjool date

1 scoop vanilla protein powder ( I love Dana James’s Beautifuel)

1 cup unsweetened vanilla almond milk

1/2 overripe banana – frozen

1 spoonful of cacao nibs

1/4 avocado

2 or 3 ice cubes

Add all ingredients into a powerful blender and let her rip– blend until silky smooth. Top with a small spoonful of Paleonola maple granola.



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Moving Beyond Anger and Anxiety

From Jacinta: How do you deal with anger and anxiety?

Hi Jacinta-

imagesIn order to move beyond anger and anxiety, we need to work with their opposites.

The opposite of anger is forgiveness. Let’s do a little exercise; think about being angry at someone. How does that feel in your body? Your heart contracts, your chest tightens up, and your jaw clenches. Now, forgive that person and forgive yourself. Let the anger go by replacing it with forgiveness, even if you don’t believe that you are ready to forgive. Watch as a lightness comes over your heart, your chest lifts and expands, and your lips turn up in a smile.

If you have been deeply hurt or violated by another person, the hardest thing to do is to let go of your anger. But if you really think about it, the anger you are holding inside yourself is only hurting you. You are suffering because you are keeping this anger in your body. Forgiveness is a practice of self-love. Begin by forgiving yourself. Then, if you can, shift your perspective and see the situation from the other person’s point of view. See the hurt, pain, and fear that the caused the other person to do the thing that you are angry about. Understanding breeds compassion.

I know that forgiving someone you are really angry at may sound like an impossible task. If you’re not ready to forgive yet, it will help to wake up each morning and do a yoga set to release the anger from your musculature. Here is a link to a kundalini yoga set that you can practice to relieve inner anger:

Here is a link to another great article and an easy meditation to do to release anger:

Now let’s look at anxiety and it’s opposite, trust. Anxiety again occurs when we are listening to that big voice of fear that lives within us. It’s the voice of the ego that wants to protect us from getting hurt, being embarrassed, or looking stupid. The ego is our limited self. It tells us what we cannot do and why we cannot do it. Our dreams are the voice of our soul. Our dreams guide us to our happiest, most joyful, enlightened versions of ourselves.

Listen to your dreams. What is the wildest thing you can imagine that brings a sense of excitement, and makes you feel alive with hope and anticipation?

“Fear is excitement without the breath.” Fritz Pearls

Once you know what you want to do, take a deep breath into your chest, expand your diaphragm and know that your spirit placed that dream within you because you have all the necessary tools to accomplish it. You’ve got this. Trust that you are enough, and you have what it takes.

In order to build self-trust, do things that you are afraid to do, and keep doing those things. Let go of the outcome, and just have fun with being a beginner. When you see babies learning how to walk, you don’t see them beating themselves up because all the adults around them are running already. You see them playfully wobbling around, falling, and trying again. Bring that childlike spirit into your life, and trust that you will eventually learn to walk, then run, then sprint, then climb, and so on. You simply have to begin by taking one single step.

This is my favorite meditation to calm down anxiety:

I hope this helps you. Please keep me updated on your journey.

Good luck!


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jacinta - thankyou, great perspective

Glenn - Thanks so much for sharing that! It’s so funny – in 32 years, I don’t think I’ve ever made that connection between Anxiety and Trust/Fear. It’s so obvious now reading it! Great piece, completely spot on – much appreciated! :-)

Jan - Parvati,
I was wondering how CBS (and you particularly) came to partner with Tommy Rosen on the promotion of #14 Days on the Wagon. I’ve been following it closely and wonder if others have found any empathy with those who live in a world full of alcohol, pot, etc, and yet choose to be abstinent, often for life or death reasons.

Thanks so much.

Prarthana Seshadri - Hey Parvati

Just discovered this blog. I am completely amazed by your confidence. Love you for that. :)
Could you do an article on time management?
I am an architecture student and with the workload I have, I feel like I barely have time for much else. I am extremely focused on becoming an architect but at the same time, I feel bad for missing out on stuff like keeping an update on football matches, world news, reading, exercising, sleeping well etc. I try juggling all these, but I feel like my head might explode.
Should I just cut out watching football matches for these 5 years of architecture school?

The Heart Rules

From Naomi:

Hey Parvati, I was wondering do you go with your gut or heart in decisions? Or does it just depend. Please elaborate.

Dear Naomi,

Your heart holds the essence of who you are.

My heart tells me what I truly want by expanding and getting lighter when some activity, person or place strikes a chord within me. When I tap into and listen to my heart’s wisdom, I am always in the right place at the right time.

Listening to your heart can be tricky because sometimes we chase our dreams and get rejected. Rejection hurts, and when we have our feelings hurt, our heart’s natural tendency is to close up and protect itself, pushing away the thing that rejected us. I don’t know about you, but I’m an emotional being. If I allow my emotions to dictate my actions, I can get in big trouble. I’ve learned that the more time I devote to fostering a relationship with my heart the more I can trust myself to not make any impulsive, destructive moves out of fear.

It’s our challenge to get very still in moments of contraction caused by fear, hurt, or anger. If we can be quiet and understand what caused the pain, we can realize that it’s ok to feel these emotions, and we can conti


nue to move forward in life with wide open hearts. Trust me, when you’re hurting, this takes work. You have to consciously move toward opening your heart, pulling your shoulders back and expanding your chest.

Above all, you must do the thing that your heart is telling you to do.

Your gut works as an ally to your heart. Your gut is your power center. It houses your instinctive reactions to your environment and helps you make quick, powerful decisions about people and opportunites.

Get in touch with your body. When you strengthen your core with physical exercise (like pilates, dance, or spinning) you will also strengthen your personal power. You will become more courageous and begin to trust yourself as you make a strong connection with your body’s natural wisdom and your ability to make intuitive choices in life.

Thanks for the fantastic question!

I’d love to hear from all of you about how you make decisions. Where does your head fit in with your decision making? Is it all heart for you or is your gut in control, too?



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Norman Ogden - Yes my guru master ,your one speacial Lady, did you ever hear of ann landers she s has nothing on you ,whats next ? thanks parvati —craig

Kristin - Hi Parvati! I just wanted to tell you that I LOVE your new haircut! Sooo cute!
I love your blog and I really need your help! PLEASE! What advice do you have to help me get out of my depression, gain my self-confidence back, and getting back into shape? I have tried different diets and workout programs but they didn’t really work.
I have pretty much lost all self-confidence and I feel so depressed and unhappy all the time. It’s impossible to get myself motivated especially when I feel so horrible about myself. In today’s society there are so many negative forces helping you to feel down on yourself; not to mention other girls our age making you feel that way as well. I just feel like my overall well-being needs to be reawakened. I feel like I’m just a big mess and feel like I am in such a dark pit that I need to get my mind, body, heart and soul out of and get back to the happy, outgoing girl I use to be.
I look forward to your help!
P.S. you are still the Queen of Survivor =)
<3 Kristin <3

Tyler Cliff - Hey! Your insight is very heart warming and positive. That kind of soul food keeps me going. Much appreciated. Also I agree with you on the gut vs. heart controversy. Most people follow their gut when in situations where they need to make quick and important decisions. Other times people might not follow their hearts but their heads, which is a pity.

Parvati - Hi Kristin- If you have been happy and outgoing in the past, you can be that again. Just start with one thing. Focus on what you want to become, not what is holding you back. Make a vision board by cutting out pictures from magazines that make you feel happy and excited about life. Surround yourself with people, colors, and images that uplift you. Remove yourself from negative situations. Happiness is a choice you make. You are in control of what you focus on and what you pay attention to will grow. I hope this helps!

Kristin - Parvati, Thank you so much for taking the time to share your advice with me; I know you are a very busy girl and it means so much to me to hear back from you. You are such an inspiration to me and I will definitely try your suggestions. I feel like I have so much I want to ask you so I may be asking for your help again in the near future.

Lou - Wow, what an amazing answer. I randomly came across this today and it’s perfect advice at a perfect time. Thank you.