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Eliminate Anxiety For Good!

I’m excited and grateful about your responses to my recent YouTube videos! Thanks for watching, subscribing and leaving your comments. Some of you have been asking about tips to reduce anxiety, so that’s what we’ll discuss today.

Here’s the deal with anxiety– it’s all about getting wrapped up in the future, and it’s a really unhelpful state. We never experience anxiety about the present moment (that’s either nervousness or excitement). Anxiety is always some worry or fear about something that is or could be happening in the future, right? Think about it.

When we break anxiety down, there are a few ways to neutralize it’s impact on us.

First, let’s take some deep breaths and do something physical to bring us into this present moment. This moment is where our power lies. We can choose from this place whether we would like to continue freaking out, or if we would like to choose something different, like peace.

For the sake of this exercise, we are choosing peace.

Great! We know we want peace, and we are feeling a sense of anxiety. So, how do we dissolve that anxiety so that we can experience peace?

We must explore what’s causing the anxiety. This is where a meditation practice comes in handy! Sit in the discomfort of the sensation, and ask what is this about? Break it down and look at it– you can journal about it if that helps. Sometimes just exploring the cause of the anxiety is enough to reduce its effect. Sometimes we need to follow the thread of the fear until we see that the effect of whatever it is that is causing the anxiety isn’t that bad after all.

This is your opportunity to shrink the anxiety by putting it into perspective with the reality of the universe. Remember, we are all tiny little specks of beings on the massive planet that is really just a tiny planet in a larger solar system, and even smaller compared to the whole universe! This is the whole purpose of meditation. We want to shift our perspective from the experiencer to the witness. When we identify with the witness (the one who watches us living our lives) then we can disengage with emotion and simply become aware of thoughts and sensations. They lose their impact this way.

We are all being protected by a loving universe that has the best intentions for you. Everything that you are being given in life is for your benefit to grow into the greatest version of yourself. So, if your anxiety is showing up because you have some big test, presentation or job opportunity— tell yourself “I am EXCITED!”

Studies show there is ZERO difference in the way our bodies respond to anxiety or excitement. Both emotions cause a surge in adrenaline and fire up our fight or flight response so we can perform optimally in a high pressure situation.

The only difference between anxiety and excitement lies in our minds. When we tell ourselves “I am Excited!” We are moving from a threat mindset into an opportunity mindset.

Now, we are ready to take on the moment with a positive framework, and we are more likely to succeed. So, just keep saying “I’m excited” over and over again until you actually convince yourself that you really are EXCITED!!

Also, watch this video to learn a pranayama (breath) practice can help you relax in just 3 minutes flat. Give it a try, and remember: You’re not anxious, you’re excited!

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The Secret to Winning Survivor Endurance Challenges

Hello beauties!

This post is for all you Survivor fans out there! As many of you know, I have a special knack for winning endurance challenges. This is not because I trained for them by hosting painful dinner parties where my guests had to compete with me for food by standing barefoot on a bed of nails…whoever lasted the longest got to eat the biggest piece of chocolate cake.

Seriously though, the power to stand on a log with your arm in the air for six and a half hours exists within you. And, the best news of all, is that you can call upon this power at any moment to help you out with any challenge.

Have a big presentation at work? Going for a job interview? How about asking someone you like out on a date?

In all of these scenarios, we need to tune into our inner power to stay calm when our adrenaline is pumping!

There is a simple and profound strategy to help us through these times that require our best.

Check out this video for the answer to how I managed to stand in my strength through a painful experience on Survivor. And, see how you can use my strategy to help you!

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Gina - Hi Parvarti! I’m a huge survivor fan; The first season aired when I was born and I’ve been watching with my family ever since. It’s always been my dream to go on the show and incorporate a mixture of some of my favorite Survivor castaways’ techniques (Yes, you are of course one of my favorites!) and blend them with my own strategy for the game. I’m about to start my undergrad at UC Davis this fall and my goal is to make it on survivor once I finish my undergrad and before I apply for my graduate degree. Anyway, I was wondering if you have any advice related to auditioning for survivor, preparing for survivor, winning survivor, and any other sort of life advice. I really look up to you and would freak out over a response! Also, thank you for the new mantra!

Sydney - this is such a cool video!! I remember everything about that challenge and also the same one in heroes vs villains. ur one of my favorite survivor players and the seasons u we’re in we’re my favorite. I’m only 13 so I was really young when they came out but I got them all on iTunes cuz ur awesome. I really want to be on survivor when I’m older and ur such a good role model

Parvati - Hi Gina! Congrats on starting at UC Davis! How exciting 🙂
For tips on Survivor casting, check out this interview with Lynne Spillman (Casting Director for Survivor)

Molly lackey - Hi Parvati! I love you and Survivor so much! You have amazing energy and perseverance. I am apart of the organization run by Alexis Jones who was in fans vs. favorites. It was awesome to get to see you guys play together! I want to be on survivor but I have a lot of health conditions keeping me from it. I hope to be better in a few years so I can play the game! I want to know what type of exercises you did to prepare yourself? I just bought a few books about Survivor so hopefully I’ll be great at the social game and strategy part!

Turn Your Inner Bully Into Your Inner Bestie

I just got back from assisting my lovely teacher Kia Miller with her 200 hour yoga teacher training at the Himalayan Institute. The training was incredible, and it reminded me how important it is to take breaks from our daily lives, to get off the grid, and to reconnect with our spirit and community. I’m revived and happy to be alive!

“When disturbed by negative thoughts, opposite [positive]
ones should be thought of. This is pratipaksha bhavana.”
––Sutra 2.33

One of the greatest things I reconnected with while I was studying the Yoga Sutras again, was the principle of pratipaksha bhavana. This profound practice has the ability to transform our own lives and those with whom we interact! It has a massive ripple effect! Tune into my vlog

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